Hellur! Hi guys! Welcome to my blog once again. I’d like to title this one “2017 and BOYZ”.
So I’ll start off by saying, last year, I was very much single, very much emotionally and spiritually stable. Oh! I also saved up enough money and airtime too lol, but 2017? I had two bad relationships in 10 months! Wawu!
For the first relationship (so i thought), I tried making things official with an old friend which ended up horribly. Horribly as in I got protective and defensive, and he ended up telling me he had no idea we were in a relationship (Yeah I know it sucks!).
Then a few months later I found myself trying to make things work with an established young man who was just looking for a ‘wife’ if you get what I mean, and when I made my point known to him that i wasn’t looking to be just a wife, he was like he was confused and he wasn’t sure if we were in a relationship. Ehhhhhhh?! At that point i was like, you know what? ‘Stop this train I want to get off!’
Wait oh! What have i been doing with my life? How did all this happen? Like How did I get into this? I am not even going to act like it wasn’t partially my fault. Honestly though, I felt like I wasted my time all those months and my emotions too. The good part is, when something like this happens, there’s always a lesson or lessons to learn.
So what did I learn?
1. I realized that most times, we tend to pray about everything except for our relationships. There’s absolutely nothing you shouldn’t commit into God’s hands honestly. Trust me, God is very good at giving directions.
2. Communication is very important. Just because you on the phone with a guy or a girl talking for hours, saying oh have you eaten? Hope you are okay? Sharing experiences and supporting each other, you know how all these boy- girl thing goes nau, but it still doesn’t mean you are dating ( even tho these are part of what a relationship should entail) You still need to ask questions, you know, like what are we doing? Who am I to you? Are we dating? Just so you don’t ending dating yourself or making a fool outta yourself.
3. Lastly, when something doesn’t feel right, like deep down in your heart and what you are seeing or getting from the relationship? Kindly walk away abeg, this thing isn’t really by force. I don’t see how people build relationships when they are not in sync, and cannot even walk together.
So yea, lesson learnt! Lol
2018 promises to be hopeful tho! Maybe I’ll meet someone I can actually talk about. But till then, “MONEY MAKING MOVES” only lol!